What your gift can achieve

A gift in your will can make sure that no carer has to care for their loved one alone.

My name is Amanda, and I am a carer for my husband who is severely sight impaired. Becoming a carer crept on up me, as my husband’s eyesight loss was gradual at first. The first time it became apparent there was an issue in 2012 just as we bought our motorhome to have some adventures. For the first few years it was a minor inconvenience to him, but then his eye condition accelerated resulting in him being registered as severely sight impaired 18 months ago.  

For me I would describe being a carer as rewarding, challenging and lonely. It is difficult at times to remember I am still an individual as life quickly becomes centred on the person you care for.

For a long time I didn’t recognise that I was a carer. It was a gradual transformation from doing things you take for granted as a couple to being relied upon.

It is a life changing event that no one prepares you for. I first heard of the Carer’s Support Centre by chance when I found a leaflet at the Health Centre, and read their definition of a carer.

I wish I had known about this sooner! Knowing there are people at the end of the phone for help, support, advice or even just to listen is very important.

For other carers I would encourage them to seek support, and it is true, if you don’t look after yourself you can’t look after someone else. It is hard and sometimes feels selfish to set aside “me time” but it matters so much. It is probably the hardest and most important part of being a carer.

Why I’m leaving a gift in my will to support the carers of the future

I was watching TV one day and there was a programme about two young girls who cared for their mother who was ill… Children with caring responsibilities have to grow up too soon and take on so much, when they should be enjoying their childhood and playing with friends. I knew I wanted to act as it’s a cause I really believe in.

I decided to leave a gift in my will to Carers Trust, I hope that after I’ve gone, my gift can make a lasting difference to carers and bring some joy to their lives.’

Mrs McDonnell, Sussex

If you have any questions about gifts in wills, please get in touch with legacies@carers.org.