Diwali: A Carer’s Reflection

Diwali, the festival of lights, holds a special place in my heart both personally and spiritually. It symbolises the triumph of light over darkness and good over evil, reminding me of the importance of inner light and positivity.

Spiritually, it is a time for reflection, prayer, and seeking blessings for a prosperous and peaceful life for everyone. 

Celebrating Diwali with my family is a joyous occasion filled with love and togetherness. We start the day with a thorough cleaning of our home, followed by decorating it with vibrant lights. The evening is marked by a special puja (prayer) to honour the deities, and we exchange sweets and gifts with our loved ones.

The highlight of the celebration is lighting divas and fireworks, which bring immense joy to everyone, especially my children. 

Certain traditions and rituals hold deep significance for us. The Lakshmi Puja, dedicated to the goddess of wealth, is particularly important, as it is believed to bring prosperity and good fortune. 

As a carer, Diwali feels different for me, compared to others who might not have caring responsibilities. Balancing the demands of caregiving with Diwali preparations and celebrations can be challenging. There are many times when I have to adapt or simplify traditions to accommodate my caregiving role.

Being the only sibling willing to support my mum, having no emotional support myself, and looking after others all the time can be mentally difficult. 

Feeling isolated during festive times is a common experience for many carers. However, finding moments of joy and peace, even amidst the challenges, is crucial. Being a carer has changed my perspective on festivals, family, and faith, making me appreciate the small moments of happiness wherever possible. 

To other carers during Diwali, I would say: take time for yourself, seek support, and cherish the moments of joy. The wider community and organisations like Carers Trust can play a vital role in supporting carers better during cultural or religious festivals.

They can provide resources, respite care, and create awareness about the unique challenges faced by carers - support that is not always readily available. 

My hope for the future is that carers can celebrate without added stress, and that there is greater recognition and support for their invaluable role.

If I could change one thing about how carers are supported around Diwali, it would be to ensure that they have access to respite care and community support, allowing them to participate in the celebrations more fully.