Esmond is in his 60s and returned to the UK to care for his elderly mother when she was diagnosed with advanced dementia and Alzheimer's disease and could no longer care for herself.

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After 28 years of living away from the UK Esmond rented a bungalow and  his mother moved in with him. He is now her full-time carer. This means he cooks, cleans and helps her with things like getting in and out of the bath.

The thought of becoming a carer or retiring had never crossed my mind. I was busy working in the food and wine industry and enjoying it."

Having lived out of the country for such a long time Esmond initially found the care system difficult to navigate. It also meant that he hadn't established the sense of community he would have done had he been living here for many years.

I was really out of touch with how to get some help. It can also be a little isolating where we live."

Esmond says the saddest thing is having a conversation with his mother because she doesn't remember things.

Occassionally I show her old photos and talk to her about them. And she does enjoy and appreciate food, so that is one thing we can share."

Esmond is now receiving support from his local Carers Trust Network Partner along with other local charities.

This gives me access to funds which enables me to purchase respite care. This means I can get a break and go out."

Esmond's local Citizens Advice has also helped him  to get Carer’s Allowance which he was initially denied on the basis of having been away from the UK for a while.

There are many ways you can support carers like Esmond

* Identities and photos of carers have been changed in the interest of privacy.