difficultly sleeping

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By katew

Re: difficultly sleeping
Sun 24 Aug 2008 09:54

oooh mother

i care for my hubby and i still have the same feelings of gult that why him and not me.

it doesnt matter how long they have been ill you NEVER get used to it.

its a typical non carers attitude. if they say it again tel them to f***k off!!!!!!

(((((((((hugs)))))))))))

kate

By loopy

Re: difficultly sleeping
Sun 24 Aug 2008 11:37

how dare others say that you should be "used to it". Who do they think they are? . You never get used to being a carer because things can change so often. People who say things like that are talking out of their backsides. As kate says, tell them to "f**k off bext time!!! I would and do sometimes!!

By loopy

Re: difficultly sleeping
Sun 24 Aug 2008 11:38

as for the not sleeping, try "nightol" . You can get them at the chemist and they worked wonders for me.

By debzsanderson

Re: difficultly sleeping
Sun 24 Aug 2008 11:39

Mother

I feel the same as you - I often wish I could take my "other halfs" MS for a day and let him have a normal day. I often lay in bed at night listening to Mark sighing and struggling to turn over etc. The thing you have to remember is you shouldn't feel guilty - we all do the best we can with the resources available. Kate said it well about never getting used to it - you just live day to day and try and do the best you can. Coming on the site really helps as it's somewhere that you'll always find a sympathetic ear either in the chatroom or if you post like you already have.

all the best

Debz xx

By kerry.

Re: difficultly sleeping
Sun 24 Aug 2008 14:33

Hi Mother,
I do not sleep for different reasons; my boys do not sleep, especially the eldest (age 11), and I am so used to being up all night that even though I don't have to be so much now, I still cannot sleep.
I went away with two mates recently (as a reward for finishing 2nd yr of university) and, although I've told them about my poor sleeping pattern, they didn't quite 'get it' until they saw it with their own eyes! They were horrified at me getting around 10 hours in a week!

As for those who tell you this and that, well, unless they have experience they can only guess at what you're going through.
They can have their opinions but that is all they are; opinions.
Maybe you could suggest they take over your role for afew weeks so they then understand what its like and so you might get some kip!

By Claire H

Re: difficultly sleeping
Sun 24 Aug 2008 20:15

Hi Mother i also do not sleep for different reasons and have got used to surviving on minimal hrs sleep. I got so used to being up with my son all night through being wide awake to suffering with night terrors and seeing things most of the time he was just bored!!!!!!!! He sleeps better now but my body cant get back in2 a normal sleep pattern it very hard 2 shut down. Have 2 say my husbands snoring doesnt help either . I also have experienced many ignorant people who think they know best yeah right ! I agree with Kerry mayb they should try it !!!!! !!!

By morello

Re: difficultly sleeping
Thu 28 Aug 2008 16:17

Dont people who havent walked in your shoes piss you off with telling you how and what to do. I seldom get more than 2 hours a night and when I do get a chance to sleep am so used to not doing so that I find I spend all night tossing and turning. I try to cat nap in the day, it does help sometimes, but if you are very tired then you feel quite ill and cant wake up, usually the phone rings or the bell goes. Most people wish for material things but all I want is a break or a rest or some sleep. If people try to tell you what to do and they are not in a caring situation tell em to f off they make me sick
Mo