Grandparent carers 'should be paid'

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By jennifer

Re: Grandparent carers 'should be paid'
Mon 22 Jun 2009 16:46

Well I am one my children have not put on,they have always brought with in their means,my son and daughter in law put their little girl in nursery,yes payed the costs,my daughter and son in law works the child minding out between them,they have no debts to pay,with a morgage to suit there means.I guess it is the way I brought them up,if you have not got the money,go with out.Dont use someone elses,yes like the banks.
Yes I have spoilt my grandchildren more than I could my own,but that is normaly the case of nannies lol.
Start how you aim to go on.
I did not put on my parents either,they had done all they could possibly do for us kids,it was their time,sadly my dad died before retirment,mum went on till she was 84,she had a few problems but we were there for her.
Just my opinion.

By Tricia

Re: Grandparent carers 'should be paid'
Mon 22 Jun 2009 22:28

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

However, had I gone out to work when my children were younger I would of opted for my parents to care for them. Especially with my youngest having speical needs I know he would not of settled in a nursery back then.

As quoted above;

"Younger grandparents caring for their grandchildren and their own elderly parents are increasingly being caught in a poverty trap, a charity has said.

"A third of grandparents in the UK aged under-55 are struggling financially, according to Grandparents Plus."

Many of these people are carers looking after their parents which many of the carers who are reading this thread will be doing. To add to their pressures they are now also looking after their grandchidlren due to the rising costs of basic living today.

My daughter has made it very clear to me if she ever has a family and she has the option of nursery or for me to look after her child she would pick me every time. So she has given me plenty of warning.

Working tax credits do pay up to 70% (I think) of child care costs to a registard child care provider. Yet, if a grand parent looks after their grand child the working tax credits pay zero. How can this be justified when a grandparent may do it out of love but they too have to pay the ever rising costs of living just like us carers do.

Maybe we should banned together and get things moving to end poverty between us all.

By jennifer

Re: Grandparent carers 'should be paid'
Mon 22 Jun 2009 23:34

looking after a parent partner or loved one as you know is hard work,surely taking in your grandchildren as well is nearly impossible,cant see how this can be done,is it not fair for the child,or the carer.
I know for a fact it can be hard on a family,if one is disabled or terminaly ill,someone suffers,if not all the family.

By Tricia

Re: Grandparent carers 'should be paid'
Tue 23 Jun 2009 00:27

Agree to that

But you get families who have more than one person with a disability and only one carer looking after them for most of the time.

However, many families who do look after elderly parents and grand children often find that like many carers they don't set out to end up in those circumstances but they do.

By jennifer

Re: Grandparent carers 'should be paid'
Tue 23 Jun 2009 12:25

Houses were cheaper,cost of living was not as it is now,I reckon we have done it to ourselves,women going out to work,wanting equal pay,letting our kids sit indoors on computers and mobile phones,buying them things before Christmas and Birthdays.
Can you remember years ago we had to go to a toy shop to buy toys,now they are opposite the bananas,there every where.O yes and good old Wollies.
Are we realy happy having everything,and our kids want for nothing,just to shut um up.Even the poor are rich.Ok it comes from plastic.