I hate my disabled mum

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By GARDENER

Re: I hate my disabled mum
Mon 29 Jun 2009 09:56

Hi Bitter sorry to read you story Iknow exactly how you feel.I nearly worked out of my own home yesterday because of the pressure my mum is putting on me.I feel that I cant cope at the moment Im so angry bad tempered and scaredof what might happen.

By fenlander

Re: I hate my disabled mum
Mon 29 Jun 2009 10:54

If you are feeling so "done in" - which is a state most of us can relate to Gardener because many of us care 24/7 with no support - please ask your GP for help. That is the route to go down because if anybody can get Social Services to respond its them. I would recommend you state that you have reached your limit and need a break.

By fenlander

Re: I hate my disabled mum
Mon 29 Jun 2009 10:57

Bitter - your post is entitled "I hate my disabled Mum". Please talk about why that is and perhaps we can give you some support and help over it. When I came in here for the first time and for quite a long time after i was full of bitterness, anger and resentment but over time the knowing that others who care experience the same tough stresses, some much worse than me and understand how I feel has helped me to reach a place where I am much more at ease with myself. Do try.

By carolm

Re: I hate my disabled mum
Mon 29 Jun 2009 12:52

It will probably help to get some respite, then you might be able to see things a bit differently. When you're under that amount of strain it's hard not to get tunnel vision and think that everything is terrible and that there are no choices you can make that will improve things. But there are really - this happened to me last year and I managed to get a break and then some help, and it's made a huge difference, although I still get pissed off sometimes!
Do talk with us - we won't judge you no matter how you feel or what you say.
Have a hug!

By Bubbles

Re: I hate my disabled mum
Mon 29 Jun 2009 16:46

It's not an easy thing caring and we all feel out of our depth at times. As the others have said you obviously need some respite to be you for a while which is very important because its that that keeps us all sane. Never be afraid of how you feel because the more you bottle it up the worse you will feel. This site is brilliant for letting off steam and no one will judge you. Im sending a big hug your way.

By Dads Daughter

Re: I hate my disabled mum
Mon 29 Jun 2009 18:08

Hello Bitter

Its quite some circle we can get ourselves into isnt it. We get stressed out with our careing, and we get stressed out if we take a break from it, or feel like taking a hike!!!

Everyone else is right, sounds like your needing to go talk to your Dr about your own health. Thats something that gets overlooked by Carers.

Let us know how your doing!

Huggs to you !

By jennifer

Re: I hate my disabled mum
Mon 29 Jun 2009 22:48

Yes I can understand like every one else who have reached a hand out to you,every one reads how things are getting one individual down,and thet felt the same yesturday or last week.We are human not robot machine's,we get tired,depressed,hurt,at the end of the day if we are lucky,our reward is a little rest.
So Bitter you are allowed to put yourself first,it took me 7yrs,but my body decided it for me.
If I had come on here sooner I would have learnt a lot from others,and it would have been a big help.
Ask for help love,its for you.

By Alix

Re: I hate my disabled mum
Tue 30 Jun 2009 06:06

Let it out, start typing and just let the words flow. It took me 5 years to accept that whatever i felt was ok, be it guilt, resentment, anger, hatred, whatever.....

There are some truly lovely people on here, and we are all in the same boat. Maybe we can help take a bit of the weight off you?

Go and see your GP too! Excellent advice, that's what they are there for in the end, to help.

Keep strong, big hugs