Annoying Chair Napping

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By chrissie4

Re: Annoying Chair Napping
Tue 9 Jun 2009 16:20

Hi Bluesuew, well you haven't told us her age or what (or if) she is suffering with, but have you thought about maybe it's simply her age? Or could be side effects of any number of medication?
If this is the case then she really can;t help this but can appreciate when yu're tired from doing everythng it can be annoying and frustrating. Perhaps she is simply under stress and feels depressed and could do with a little outing once in awhile to cher her up and get her out and abou active and going again?

By fenlander

Re: Annoying Chair Napping
Tue 9 Jun 2009 16:55

Had to laugh Blue cos my hubby does the same and I say if i have to do all this work the least you can do is damn well stay awake and look like you care!!!
He's only 53 but I am thinking that perhaps being paralysed and sitting down a lot and the effort it takes to do the simplest thing tires him - or the pain killers and dealing with spasms???

By bluesuew

Re: Annoying Chair Napping
Tue 9 Jun 2009 18:23

She is getting on a bit aged 77, I actually find it depressing, and annoying, Iooking after someone who sleeps, when I need to tidy, or clean, or even have 5 minutes to myself. I can deal with looking after someone, but not this, if I want to see someone asleep in the chair, I would go and work in a care home, but I don't want to see it here. I think it's my mental attitude, and being stuck in the house, with the same depressing day after day theme.

By loopy

Re: Annoying Chair Napping
Tue 9 Jun 2009 18:39

i am sorry to say this and i hope i dont offend, but how do you think your poor old mom feels ?? Have you thought about having a word with her gp ? is she on any medication that can be the cause of her sleepiness?? if this is the case, can you not get it altered?? I know its hard and a thankless task but have you not got a social worker that you can talk to?? They may be able to arrange some respite care for you, your mom may benefit from a change of scenery too. She probably feels depressed and embarresed that she is the way she is.

By Tricia

Re: Annoying Chair Napping
Tue 9 Jun 2009 19:05

bluesuew sounds like it comes with the teritory of being a carer of someone your mum's age.

It will be four years tomorrow since my Mam died and I would do anything to have her back and care for her even if it meant going back to the days where I would be awake 24/7 with the odd nap here and there. It was hard work back then and I use to live in hope for just a few moments break to myself but I knew deep down that it would not be forever and it was because i knew it would not be forever that is what kept me going. For me it was a priviladge to care for someone who I loved and cared about so much even on days when I was feeling I would be going to the big man in the sky before Mam due to exhaustion. (Also my youngest son has severe learing disabilities and is autistic along with being a single parent and have two older children living at home; no help from my siblings just hinderance in telling me what to do and what not to do ahrhahahahah)

As someone ages their sleeping patterns do change but saying all that do check out to see if there are any medical reasons why this should be occuring.

Does your MUM sleep well at nights or do you find because she is having naps through the day that she can no longer sleep through the night? Again this could be the start of a change in sleeping pattern due to age along with many other age related conditions.

Right had my rant about all that and I am aware we carers are all different and we do the best to what we can. If your finding it too difficult and I admire anyone who can hold their hands up and say enough is enough and state that they can go on no longer rather than going until they drop themselves. If this is the case then as suggested already to contact social services to see about your carers assessment or even to contact your local carers centre to see if you can talk to someone which more than often can help. Some carers centres are able to offer a outreach service which is not means tested the way social services means test for certain services.

Hope you manage to get something sorted out soon and enjoy your time with your mam

By chrissie4

Re: Annoying Chair Napping
Tue 9 Jun 2009 19:05

I agree with the above by loopy..but I know how hard it can be when you work your butt off and there isnlt even a thanks..x

By jennifer

Re: Annoying Chair Napping
Tue 9 Jun 2009 19:06

awwwwwwwwwww bless her,let her be,if she is happy thats ok,like a baby,sleep is as good as a feed.
I think you need help,sorry but I can only be honest to you.
I dont think you should be taking on this role,sorry.
I agree with what the others say also,but was not happy to read what you wrote.

By jennifer

Re: Annoying Chair Napping
Tue 9 Jun 2009 19:11

It takes me nearly 2 hrs to get dad up and sorted in the mornings,and then he is napping,he does not know if it is night or day bless.

By fenlander

Re: Annoying Chair Napping
Tue 9 Jun 2009 19:47

Try caring for an active Autistic child who poos everywhere, destroys your home [including making holes in the walls in some cases], shrieks, flaps and doesn't sleep at night and I think you would be grateful that the person you care for does nothing more anti-social and demanding than "sleep"!!!!

By me&him

Re: Annoying Chair Napping
Tue 9 Jun 2009 20:34

i am a carer for my husband he had loads of bad nights with pain with arthritis doc put him on tablets to sleep trying to get him out of bed in the morning is hard work he sleeps most afternoons in the chair as long as he is safe an breathing then i dont mind not only that my daughter shes 20 she aint disabled she had corective sergary so she cant go to the gym so she sleeps alot too you want to here it here in the after noon it like a zoo with the snoreing but it not all bad it gives me chance to have a bit of me time