Had enough

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By mag

Re: Had enough
Fri 3 Oct 2008 20:03

Hi Diamond

Sorry you are having a bad time - the caring role is so hard at times. You do not say how old you are, or how old your grandparents are,or what their needs are but they are indeed fortunate to have you looking after them.

Why not pop into the chat room where you will find, no matter how varied our experiences are, there are friendly people who will understand the stresses and isolation of caring.

There are usually Carers in chat 7.30 pm onwards

By Diamond

Re: Had enough
Fri 3 Oct 2008 20:18

I am 29 and my Granparents are 84 and 81. I help them basically because of their age and my Grandad is very poorly with shingles and he can't do day to day tasks anymore. He is a proud and independent man and for him to be like this says alot. My Grandma doesn't like the attention he is getting so has put herself to bed getting him to run around after her 24/7.

By EL

Re: Had enough
Fri 3 Oct 2008 23:01

Hiya Diamond, is there no one else at all who can help you? your only 29 it's a big responsibility to care for your grandparents on your own, shingles is the most painful illness i have ever been through, your nan should be running round after her husband not the other way round, and shingles isn't gone when the blisters have, the after affects can last for months, poor him and poor you XXX big hug

By Tricia

Re: Had enough
Sat 4 Oct 2008 07:16

Hello Diamond

lovely name my late father's favorite saying for my son was that he was a Diamond in the rough and those words ring true in so many ways.

Have you had a Carers Assessment done. This is usually carried out by social services but if you contact your carers centre or Age Concern they might be able to help you through out this as well.

The Carers Assessment many say is a waste of time but it does give you a tool in identifying your needs as a carer such as breaks and doing things that a person your age would normally do.

Also issues such as your needs will be address through out the carers assessment. When I had my carers assessment carried out it was identified I needed breaks from my son so he was placed into respite. I have had many a guilt trip as he is not keen on going but I have come to terms that I do need those breaks for my own health reasons or I may end up one day being in a position where I can't carry on.

I was my parents carer in their old age and they too used the guilt trip with me. I often wished I had more confidence to of stood up to them and say I do need a break to be me every now and again. But that is easier said than done when your faced with that situation I know only too well

but I do hope you are able to get help and support to make your caring role a happier time to remember when you look back later in life. Making this period in your life being a one to be proud where you were able to be part of their lives when they needed you to be there for them.

take care
tricia