re the miseries

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By Tricia

Re: re the miseries
Tue 16 Sep 2008 08:13

welcome fredanme

many of us have been there worn the t shirt so shall be able to help you along your way.

I was my parents carers but they have both died now but also during those years my three children were in their teens the youngest having autism and learning disabilities. People often use to tell me it must be so hard but for me it was a way of life as I knew no other. It is those who have been out working or have had to give up something in their lives who must find it difficult to adjust and on some days find it exciting the challenges that lay ahead.

Had I not been a carer and gone through what I have over the years i think this week would of been my week I would of gone to pieces.

Monday my kitchen ceiling came down as I was putting out the recycling which was just as well I was out of the way so I count my lucky stars that I was not hurt, Today, Tuesday is my son's 17th birthday and as he was opening his presents a mouse ran from beind the TV but because I have one of those plug in things I doubt there will be any others; it's probably just a stray as I have french doors at the back of the house and are open most of the day. Still mouse food has gone down for it and a couple of traps shall be set today just to make sure, But am I frazzled nope not this time as I am waiting for the lottery numbers to come up this week and then I can have my icing on the cake as they say.

But getting back to the highs and lows there are many for us all and we all take them in our strides many cope better than others or seem to and some of us find it very stressful.

First get your carers assessment done that way you have a tool available to state what your needs are as a carer, Many carers say they are managing but were all human and we can only take so much one day you may just wake up and say, 'I have had enough.' And where does that leave the ones you love? Oh. and not forgetting yourself so carers assessment is a must.

Try to make some time for yourself even if it is just a quick read while sitting on your throne up in the bathroom each day.

Saw you in the chat room lastnight but never got introduced so hope to see you in there soon again as we have lots of fun and laughter when in there

take care

tricia

By fredanme

Re: re the miseries
Tue 16 Sep 2008 14:04

Hi Tricia,many thanks for your reply and words of wisdom are very comforting.I have joined this site to hear others stories like yours. hope to chat some night although am a novice at this found it hard keeping up with the pace ,my typing speed is slow.but a good oppurtunity for practice.
kind regards Fredanme